Everyone has self-sabotaging behaviors, whether we realize it or not. But have you ever really stopped to think how many of them are impacting your goals, or derailing you from achieving them? Recognizing and understanding the ways you continue to sabotage yourself is a great act of self-awareness. See how many of these you can identify with.
Any time you second guess yourself, you hold yourself back. It's normal to doubt yourself from time to time but when it prevents you from moving forward and paralyzes you from making decisions then it is self-destructive.
NEEDING VALIDATION FROM OTHERS
You don't need anyone's permission to do what you want to do. The faster you learn to make decisions based on your wants and your needs without seeking validation and acceptance from others, the much happier you will be.
SURROUNDING YOURSELF WITH TOXIC PEOPLE
Surrounding yourself with toxic people is a fast way to get nowhere. We all hear that we are the sum of the 5 people we spend our time with. Are there people in your life that don't deserve to be there? Examine the people you surround yourself with and more importantly- how they make you feel. Edit accordingly.
Being fearful to start, being fearful to make a mistake, to fail, to lose money, to get rejected. Here's the good news; all of those things will most definitely happen. Now that you've accepted that, move past it. One of my favorite books, The 50th Law by 50 Cent and Robert Greene tackles this subject head on.
LIMITING YOUR GROWTH
Anything is possible and if you don't have that truly believe that, add it to your personal development to-do list. Learn to have a, "why not?" mentality.
NOT INVESTING IN YOURSELF
You must be willing to invest in yourself if you are going to move forward. At some point, you will need to learn a new skill, hone in on your craft or learn something new altogether- how exciting and what a great opportunity! That's how you should face any investment you get to make in yourself.
COMPARING YOURSELF TO OTHERS
Comparison is the thief of joy. Many successful people that I follow seem to have the same quality; when it comes to their path they put their blinders on. That means they're focusing on themselves, they're not worried about what other people are doing or that the next person has achieved more. Let others people's success inspire you, not make you feel threatened.
ENGAGING IN RISKY BEHAVIOR
Drugs, alcohol, promiscuity, gambling or any other addictive behavior has no place in your life. The sooner you can realize that, well, the sooner you can save yourself heartache, heartbreak, money, time and a bunch of other very important things you lose in your life when you give in to destructive vices.
GIVING YOUR TIME AWAY TOO FREELY
It always mind boggles me to hear people say that they "don't have time." More often than not, if you take a look at how the person spends their time, you tend to see a lot of time wasted on things that are not productive, not getting them closer to their goals and possibly, a complete waste of time.
WAITING FOR THE RIGHT TIME TO START
Here's a game-changing tip; there's no such thing as "the right time." If you sit around and think about every excuse not to start you'll find plenty. The trick is to not sit on it and just get started. Once you start moving in the right direction, it will feel amazing!
What self-sabotaging behaviors are holding you back in your life?
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